SAGE AND SPOON GUIDELINES & DISCLAIMERS
1. This is a confidential support group. All information shared at this meeting stays here.
2. Avoid stating specific numbers when talking about body size, weight, body movement (exercise), food, calories, and disordered eating behaviors. For instance, instead of saying “I ate a blank amount of slices” you can say, “ I ate a lot of slices.” Numbers can activate uncomfortable feelings for people struggling with eating disorders.
3. Speak from your own personal experience and do not generalize other people’s experiences or identities.
4. Ask people what their pronouns are before referring to them inside or outside of the meeting. Respect people’s pronouns.
5. Refrain from describing people’s bodies. Body shaming and food shaming are not allowed in this space.
6. This support group is not a diet or exercise club. Keep the space free from diet and or exercise recommendations to others. Abstain from speaking about “unhealthy” food or condemning food groups.
7. Participation is not mandatory but we encourage folks to be open and share. Meetings are much more powerful with participation.
8. Be compassionate and mindful that we may be in different places in our journeys. Each journey is unique.
9. Check your fatphobia (fear or hatred towards fatness) at the door. We encourage all participants to challenge internal and explicit anti-fat sentiments, language, and health values. Fatness is not the problem or something we are trying to prevent. For some people being fat or gaining weight is part of recovery.
10. Refrain from using the words “obesity” “obese” and “overweight” as these are terms that stigmatize and pathologize people in large bodies.
11. We cannot guarantee a safe space 100% of the time due to the variety in eating disorders and people's level of unpacking fatphobia and diet culture. This is a learning space for all.
12. As facilitators, we all wear different hats within the work that we are doing in the eating disorder field. We ask that if we know you from outside of this space whether that is friends, family, clients, community activists etc. that you abstain from sharing details of our relationship within the group so that others do not feel excluded or left out.
13. I agree to be mindful when I am making judgements or assumptions based on gender, gender expression, or sexual orientation.
15. This is a support group NOT a clinical therapy group. A support group is a place where you receive support from peers and have facilitators who hold space for this process to occur. A clinical therapy group is typically offered by someone who is operating in the role of a licensed and/or clinician to help folks process through a specific topic or concern.